Showing posts with label fear. Show all posts
Showing posts with label fear. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 03, 2019

The Hatrack

      Way, way back when our oldest daughter, Carissa, was a mere toddler, I played a game with her. On cold days following worship, I would sit her on the top of the hat rack in the lobby of the church I pastored in Beaver, PA to bundle her up. It was easier. Because she was up high she wouldn’t squirm as much while I wrestled her into hat, coat, and mittens. (If you are thinking I was a negligent father, putting my daughter at risk, relax. She was safe. Otherwise Sheila would have killed me!) After she looked like Charlie Brown ready to play in the snow, I would step back. She would hold out her arms and stare at me. “Do you trust me?” I would ask. “Yes” came the little toddler voice. “Then jump! I promise I will catch you.” Since I was a step away, she could not bring herself to do it. She said she trusted me… but there was a limit to that trust.
      “C'mon,” I would coax her. “I’m your dad. I would never let you fall. I'm strong and you can trust me. Now, jump!” From that distance, she would not do it. So I moved a little closer and she would lean toward me, expecting me to reach up to grab her. Realizing I was not coming quite close enough, she would pull back, fear in her little eyes. Again, “Do you trust me? Then jump! I promise I will catch you. You have nothing to be afraid of.” She would try to reach me, to touch me, but could not quite make the stretch. And she’d pull back. She could not leave the “safety” of the hat rack, not realizing she was safer in my arms than up there.
      Finally, I would move close enough that she could lean to within a few inches. “Do you trust me?” I would ask again. “Then jump into my arms!” And she would. She could trust her dad with those few inches. I would pull her tight, hug her and tell her, “You can trust me. I would never, ever, ever, ever let you fall.” As time went on, she overcame her fear to jump from greater and greater distances. Sometimes trust takes time and experience to kick in.
Do you trust me??
      One of my favorite scenes in moviedom is when Indiana Jones comes to a seemingly impassable chasm while attempting to retrieve the Holy Grail to save his father. He looks down in terror, knowing he has only a few minutes to reach the other side before his father dies. The only clue he has to work with is, “The man of God will walk by faith.” He recognizes the implication: he must step out into thin air and trust that something good will happen. Indiana closes his eyes, lifts one foot and steps into the cavern. Instead of tumbling to the bottom, his foot lands on solid ground. The bridge is disguised to look like the ravine. He throws dirt onto the bridge so he can see it and quickly crosses over. A moment of faith changed everything.
Do you trust me??
      That was the question facing Jesus as He prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane. He knew that only a few hours separated Him from a Roman cross. He knew the agony of the physical pain because He had watched men hang exposed for days. He also knew the agony of shouldering the pain of all of mankind’s sin was awaiting Him -- being cut off from the Father. Crying out to His Dad, He begged for another plan. “Do you trust me?” were the words God seemed to be saying. “Do you trust me in My plan? Do you trust me in your pain? Do you trust me that it will be better on the other side? Do you trust me to raise you to life?” He did, and it changed everything! For Him. For you. For me. For the world now and forever.
Do you trust me??
      It’s pretty easy to trust God when He is within inches as we sit on the hat racks of life. When leaping into His arms is a fairly guaranteed deal. When there's not much chance He can or will pull away. It’s a much different proposition when He’s across the room, we’re stuck on the hat rack, no one else is around and there is not a ladder in the building. Then He says, “Jump!” from twenty feet away. In those times it seems that God is just not making sense. And there’s no possible way He can catch us. And He’s not answering our pleas for explanations. And we’re in pain. And the janitors are turning out the lights. And no one else appears to have to sit on the hat rack or jump. And we’ve got lots of reasons, facts and proven studies of why it is not healthy to jump. And God doesn’t seem to want to hear any of it; He just wants us to jump.
Do you trust me??
      It isn’t trust if Carissa can grab me before she leaves the hat rack. It isn’t trust if Indiana can see the bridge before he steps. It isn’t trust for Jesus if there is no cross, no pain, no death, no separation from the Father and no resurrection. And it isn’t trust for us if we don’t obey even when it doesn’t make sense. But in every case, it is better after making the leap of trust than it was before. Carissa’s safely in my arms, Indiana’s healing of his father, Jesus’ glory. And for you -- intimacy with God and experiencing His work in our lives in ways we cannot see.
Do you trust me??
      Whatever you’re facing, trust God. Listen carefully for His voice. (Don't you dare jump until you hear His instructions -- there's a difference between obedient trust and stupidity). But once you hear His voice, jump! God wants to, longs to catch you. Refuse to give into the human desire to be in control, to trust yourself. Just jump. Close your eyes if you have to, but leap! It is always better on the other side. It may take a while to get there, but you’ll be glad you did when you feel the strong, loving arms of your Heavenly Dad envelop you. Hold you. Protect you. Reassure you. Love you. Otherwise you may be sitting on a hat rack for the rest of your life. 

(Jesus said) “Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me.”   John 14:1

And we know that all that happens to us is working for our good if we love God and are fitting into his plans.   Romans 8:28 (TLB)

(This blog entry is chapter 37 of my book, "From Where God Sits," available at Amazon.com)

Friday, July 05, 2013

Angles on Life - Seeing Life From Where God Sits



           I’d always thought it was because my kids liked me and they liked me holding them.  They would reach out their little arms toward me and want to be in my big, strong arms.  When they got hurt, when they were tired, when they were scared, or when they wanted to see something they couldn't reach.  Turns out to be purely selfish.  It wasn’t about me, it was about THEM!
            I tripped over this insight a years ago when my youngest son, Chadd, was standing in the kitchen pointing at something on the kitchen counter to the left of the sink.  Being a toddler he couldn’t communicate clearly so we played “the guessing game.”  You know the one… he points, grunts and I make guesses as to what he is looking at and what he wants me to do with it.  (And we parents think we are in charge.)  A similar game is played when the toddlers become teenagers.  It's called, "How could you be so stupid?"  This game is played when the parent asks a question, the teenager looks at the parent, rolls his eyes, sighs, and in other ways non-verbally communicates to the parent, "How could you be so stupid?" 
            Back to Chadd…  I picked up item after item asking, “Is this what you want?”  To which he would pull the pacifier from his mouth and say, “No.”  He kept pointing, I kept guessing, he kept saying “No” and I got frustrated.
            In desperation I knelt down beside him, sighted up his arm and looked.  It was instantly clear.  I stayed on my knees a while and looked around at his world.  It was enlightening.  Do you realize that toddlers live in a world of kneecaps?  Big kneecaps, small kneecaps, kneecaps in hose, naked kneecaps, invisible kneecaps covered by jeans.  Our world is built for humans at least five feet tall.  Everything looks different from the angle of someone two feet tall.  EVERYTHING.  The floor is close but all the good stuff is far away.  Feet are constantly swinging toward you.  Shopping carts look like bulldozers.  You can't reach anything beyond the second shelf.  And if you take a risk and climb on the kitchen table the big people yell at you.  It is daunting, dangerous and disconcerting.  THAT is why my kids wanted me to hold them – so they could see life better and be protected from the kneecaps. They felt safe when they were in my arms.  And when a parade comes by the best seat on the street is on dad's shoulders, using his ears as handles.
            The way life looks is determined by your angle.

            Life appears a lot like Chadd's world to us human types much of the time.  We just don't realize it. We see things we need or want up on the counter of life, but we can't reach them.  Problems threaten to kick us in the teeth.  When we take a risk people yell at us.  We get scared, hurt, frustrated, tired, as life looks overwhelming.  That's reality.  The good news is that we have the same option Chadd chose – we can reach our arms up toward our Dad and He'll hold us, help us get what we need, protect us, and reassure us.
            But best of all, when we're in God's arms we can view life from where He sits.  Only then can we see it as it really is.  The world was built by our heavenly Dad and only from where He sits does it make sense. 
YOUR life was specifically designed for you, but only as you see it from where God sits does it make sense.  Sitting on His shoulders is the best seat on the street.
            The way life looks depends a lot on where you’re sitting. Ask God to pick you up to give you at least a glimpse of what your life looks like from where He sits.

"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the LORD. "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. Isaiah 55:8-9 (NIV)
"Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know." Jeremiah 33:3 (NIV)

Boldly, Herb

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